Isn’t this a HUGE question by itself!

Is the reason –

• It happened by chance
• Because of social pressure
• A source of joy when we come home
• So that our family legacy can be carried forward
• To have a boy/ girl to complete the family

This can be an extremely subjective topic. So, I launched a poll to get people’s opinion over this. Here are the results, which are quite interesting

There was an OTHER section in the same poll, where people could key in their views apart from the mentioned questions. It had some noteworthy comments –

Becoming a parent should be a choice rather than a necessity or compulsion. Just because you are married doesn’t mean that you must have kids. Having kids is like a full time occupation. One should decide to have a CHILD only if ONE PARENT IS READY to dedicate his/ her time to their upbringing until they are independent.

This can happen only when following are the thoughts before you produce kids –

• We wish to give everything you missed in childhood to your kids
• We want to mould our kids to be the future leaders to the world
• Create great human beings and hence inspirations to anyone they come across

One of my friend mentioned that you haven’t given option in the poll for those who don’t want to have kids! True, isn’t it! I would appreciate her more than someone who produces kids but don’t have time for them. Just spending money on them or hiring maids to raise the kids isn’t parenting!

Celebrity Twinkle Khanna beautifully sums up what I intend to say on her instagram handle – “Our job is not to give our children perfect childhoods. It is to fill their heads with ideas, to honour their strengths and make them aware, but never underline their weaknesses. It involves loving them madly and throwing a few vegetables down their throats. We need to permanently dedicate a large number of our neurons towards their mosquito bites, bad grades and hurt feelings. And we must do all of this, day after day, without losing sight of everything we are and can be, along with being their mothers!”

If you already have kids, there is always time to mould them. Your kids will always remain your kids however old they are. If the kids are already grown up like teenager and above, your efforts to make them believe that you want to invest time with them now will be humungous. They might feel weird that you didn’t invest time with them earlier, then why now. As parents, we always look to give. All the efforts will be worth it when that bond gets established. Everyone in this world needs guidance if received in a way, which is acceptable to him or her. As a parent, we are rest assured that we will do things in the benefit of our kids and not to dupe or misguide them.

For those who are yet to plan for a baby, do ponder on the reason why you want to get a child in this world. Let the reason be a positive one so that in a few decades from now, the world is actually a lovely place to live in! This is possible only if you are READY TO DEDICATE TIME AS A PARENT!

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