The other day Anay and Aavya demanded for a new drawing book as their old one was getting over. Being a good mom, Arpita promised that she will get it for them after their sports class!

In the rush of things, all three forgot about it. The kiddos remembered just when they were about to sleep. When they realised that the drawing book hadn’t come, they threw tantrums and were highly upset.

After a few discussions, a fresh date was set for buying that book, and then they slept peacefully.

As Arpita and Me were about to sleep, we happened to discuss on this issue – what’s the big deal if we didn’t get that drawing book. We never said no and can always get it tomorrow. Why should they throw tantrums on such a small issue?

But then we came to our senses and realised – it may be a small thing for us, but such a BIG thing for them! It’s their BIG small world. Even such a seemingly small thing for an adult might be a BIG and important thing for the child.

It seems we have the right to get upset, angry, and irritated over issues that seem big for us, and we often have justification for our behavior. But if the child throws tantrums on issues that seem big for them, we raise our voice to keep them mum.

It is time to step into their shoes and see their BIG small world. Since they are dependent on us, doesn’t mean we can behave the way we want to just because we are physically stronger and can raise our voices.

We need to be neutral and reasonable to the kids. I feel that we are reasonable until our patience runs out. After that everything they ask for becomes unreasonable and unnecessary.

Let’s see their BIG world as a BIG world!

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