“4 o’clock? Still an hour for her to come.”
Have you ever noticed anyone waiting for someone?
They glance at their watch so often. I wonder why? One of the reasons could be, they want time to travel faster. Or maybe they are impatient and want to prepone the meeting as soon as possible.
“Not now. I will do this work tomorrow. I don’t feel like doing it now.”
Have you ever come across someone like this! Well yes, maybe ourselves too! We procrastinate some tasks so often.
This makes me think why? Why do we postpone or procrastinate so much!
So the fact is, if you are postponing something, you are obviously doing something that you don’t want to do. If there is something that you really want to do, will you postpone it or prepone it?
Like someone waiting to meet a dear one eagerly keeps glancing at the watch every now and then, everyone wants to prepone things they want to eagerly do.
So my Simple question is ‘why the hell are you doing something that you don’t want to do?’ And the answer is, “because if I do this I will get this, I will get that… n blah blah.”
So firstly, please, please, understand that there is nothing to get in this life. There is really nothing. Either you live this life in a profound and intense manner, or you do not.
Yes, this is the bitter truth!
Think for yourself. What will you get in the end?
In the end what will happen to you and to me and us all! They will either bury us or burn us. Whatever the process, a human being makes good manure.
That’s all that will happen in the end. Do you think someone will give you a prize or a trophy for your life? No my dear, nothing like that will happen in the end.
The only thing is the process of life, how wonderfully you lived. That’s all that is. So if you are doing something really wonderful, do you want to prepone it or postpone it? Prepone only. So you must find out what it is that you really want to do. If you find that one thing, you will always prepone everything and not postpone.
Please note, when I say you should do what you want, I am not talking about the whimsical things you want to do. Like somebody wants to play a game, some want to get married, some want a particular education and some only money. No! They don’t want all these things! They believe if they get to do these things, they will live a life of fulfillment and joy.
Let us understand. Suppose you are absolutely joyful right now, and then what will you do? You will do only those things which are needed. Simple.
But when you are in pursuit of happiness, you become very particular as to what to do and what not. When you are an expression of joy, you will do what is needed in the world. Isn’t it?
Let me explain.
The day when you are very happy, do you see how considerate and wonderful you are to everybody around you? And another day you are a little frustrated, you see how nasty you can be?
Thus we need to produce more joyful human beings. One who is joyful has no needs of his own, he is fine. Wherever you place him, he is fine. He will do what is needed in the world. Well, this is what humanity should look like and be!
Those who are in pursuit of happiness will do what they fancy, whether the world likes it or not.
Unfortunately, most of the world is in pursuit of happiness, but not the way it is supposed to be. Everyone wants to squeeze in happiness from the world. But happiness is not in the world. Happiness is within us, the human being. If you make this happen your life is an expression of joy.
To Explain it better-
Have you seen your childhood pictures or photographs? Your face was always beaming with a smile. Somebody had to make you unhappy. Slowly as you grew, your face became frowny. Now somebody has to make you happy.
How many people are driving their dream car or bike with great joy? Joy is not a goal by itself. How pleasant the experience is, what matters too.
If your Body is pleasant we call it ‘Health’, if it becomes more pleasant we call it ‘Pleasure.’
If your Mind is pleasant we call it ‘Peace’, if it becomes more pleasant we call it ‘Joy.’
If your Emotions are pleasant we call it ‘Compassion’, if it becomes more pleasant we call it ‘Love.’
If your Life Energies is pleasant we call it ‘Bliss’, if it becomes more pleasant we call it ‘Ecstasy.’
And if your Surroundings are pleasant we call it ‘Success’, it becomes more pleasant we call it ‘Victory.’
To make the surroundings pleasant, you need the cooperation of many people. But to make your body; mind; emotion; your energy pleasant, it is 100 percent your business. Right now your body is feeling very pleasant, your mind is pleasant, your emotions and energies are pleasant, but the surroundings are not very pleasant. So is this a big problem?
If you are joyful by your own nature, you are always a part of the solution. If you are miserable you are part of this problem. This is a choice that we all have. And one must exercise this choice. Somebody else should not decide what should happen within you? You should decide it.
So if unpleasantness is happening or unhappiness is happening or frustration is happening or anger is happening, what it simply means is you are enslaved to somebody. Somebody else decides what should happen within you. This is the most horrible sort of enslavement. You should decide what happens within you.
Being Yourself
What is around you, the surrounding, the situation, everyone has a say. We can strive to create that situation that is not totally in our hands. But what’s within us is our space where only what we want must happen. When what we want starts happening within us, then we will keep it in the extreme states of pleasantness. When I m so pleasant inside, outside issues are not going to determine the course of life.
And once we are pleasant and joyful, we stop procrastinating. We can purely define things we need to do and try to pre-pone all that we need, isn’t it?
Very nicely written and very much true.
My take away from this overwhelming blog is just 1
I. E. happiness is not in the world. Happiness is within us.
Thanks akshay for the mention.