You see the tshirt I’m wearing ?
It says “Everything is a choice . “
While driving back from my pilates class this morning , my radio got tuned to my phone and my sons’ playlist started singing. Honestly I do not enjoy his English songs playlist as much as I love my bollywood desi songs . But when he is with me in the car , we listen to his playlist together . Well, that is the choice I make when I am with him.
I love all cuisines but given a choice, I wouldn’t mind indian fast food, namely the famous pav bhaji and pizza , if I have to go with my hubby . He is not fond of sushi, Thai or Chinese food . Again a choice I make when I am with him.
Well what i intend to wonder is , why this choice with them ? And the answer is because I love them .
And just think about it, Is not Love all about choices ?
We don’t like certain habits or behaviors of our parents or siblings but we choose to stay on and bear with them cause we love them . Same goes with staff or colleagues or even partners, inlaws, friends, and/or family. Infact we agree to many decisions by choice that comes from a place of love , respect and care.
Yes ! We choose to see the good, ignore the frivolous and petty .
So I can say Love is choosing to put in the effort to do these things that we may not like and guess what comes as a wonderful reward is Staying in Love.
And choosing to stay in love is a choice we all must make.
Staying in love takes a commitment. It is easy to say , ” she is too stubborn, i can’t stay with her. ” or ” he is a workaholic , I don’t like it . I am walking out of this relationship.”
But it takes courage to accept them as they are and stay on . Our parents are not like us nor are our siblings . How will a partner or friend or colleague be just like us ?
Remember the love you started with .
Be honest and you will realise often the disagreements are over little things. Just let go .
Accept and Celebrate the differences .
Work as a team .
Laugh together, apologise, forgive.
Most importantly communicate, communicate , communicate .
Listen .
Look from others’ perspectives .
Don’t hasten your response.
Also love yourself . You cannot love anyone unless you love yourself . Besides, if you don’t love yourself enough, how can you expect someone else to?
Love is, indeed ,a series of choices.
Love may be a feeling and/or emotion for some but what I understand today is also that Love is a choice.
And I choose to love more and most NOW.
And to ease your love life, these affirmations could be your choice ….
“I am feeling the LOVE AND TRUST between my partner and me grow each day.”
“LOVE AND CARE in all relationships comes naturally to me.”
“I choose to FORGIVE AND LET GO . Thus my relationships are strengthening .”
“I TRUST I am with the right person at the right time at the right place always.”
“Everyday my commitment grows stronger and so does my love.”
“I am confident in the love my people have for me .”
“I am capable of the best relationships.”
Read or write the affirmations that resonate with you at the moment. Feel free to make the necessary changes in the statements like using your own frequent words . Your mind recognises your own words and voice .
Wishing you loads of loving choices !
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Very true and very well written
Love is a choice when chosen, there remains no existence of other choices.
Love is indeed beyond choice, it’s acceptance ,like a mother accepts its child as the most beautiful creation even before its birth.
Indeed love is beyond acceptance as acceptance too at times become conditional. Love is unconditional, like you mentioned of the relationship you start with, that moment you never keep condition that you can’t be stubborn or workoholic.
Indeed love is eternity and divinity. Love is Radhe Shyam 🙏🙏
Kahaan hai Aapke Charan 🙏💐
Thank u akshay
so true . Never realised until today . Thank You so much..we have become so busy for earning those 4 paise that we forgot to live life . specially me since I have given money more importance than every thing even at the stake of my health.
thanks niranjan.
Very well written Meenal..
Love is acceptance. Accept every person in present as he/she is. With all their positive and negative sides.
VERY TRUE WE LIVE BY CHOICE OF MAKING ALL HAPPY AND SHOULD KEEP DOING SO
Beautifully written darling.
But I beg to differ.
What if the choice that you make is not the right one.
By the time you realize it , it might be too late. And then you CHOOSE to stay in the relationship anyway and suffer.
Remember, aid comes to those who seek but the suffering cannot be shared.
When you keep letting go and accepting the flaws, it means you’re not claiming your space and accepting the behavior that eventually gets toxic.
My point is, it works both ways. All relationships work on give & take basis. Life is too short to live one sided.
If the acceptance & letting go is happening both ways , then I’m all in for choosing to stay in love.
But if the effort is not made otherwise , I’m out.
Simple as that:)
So beautifully explained.
Loved every line of this.
Wow! A great read… really liked the way you explained the most complex feeling and it’s importance.
So true, lovely said Meenal