DATED – 5th August 2017

As I wrote in the last blog – I do not buy any concept that proves that one gender is better than the other. Both are equally good, capable and respect worthy, but different in nature. John Gray has written a wonderful book – “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. This book wonderfully speaks about how the same thing will be looked at from a different perspective by a man and a woman. It is hilarious to go through that book.

So, the onus is on me to balance the last article. I wrote about HOW TO TREAT WOMEN in the last blog. Here is HOW TO TREAT MEN (men here means husband, father, brother, son, friend, colleague, etc.) –

• RESPECT THEM (Facts) –
  • They willingly take the responsibility to be the head of the family
  • Irrespective of their situation, their priority will be to protect the family to their best capability
  • They will do whatever it takes to give all possible comfort to the family
  • Sacrificing something for the sake of the family is an inherent quality
  • The way they say/do things might not always look correct, but the intentions are always genuine
  • They too get hurt, but don’t show it thinking it is a sign of weakness

• HOW THEY DESERVE TO BE TREATED (Action) –
  • Once he is back home, he will to be asked – how his day was
  • Allow him to talk and share without interrupting or wanting to tell what all happened in the day at home
  • Tell him at least one lovely thing that happened at home today. He would cherish to know that while he is toiling the whole day, good things are happening back at home
  • Give him food/tea in crockery that you would give to your guests
  • Look excited/smile when he comes back home, rather than just opening the door and walking away
  • Men always love company while having dinner at home. At least one person in the house would be an ideal company while he has food
  • Compliment him when he is dressed to kill
  • Randomly call him saying that you felt like listening to his voice
  • If you’re earning well, buy him something, which he is avoiding to buy thinking why to spend so much
  • Give him a head massage before going to sleep
  • Never make him feel guilty. It is better to enquire before coming to a conclusion
  • Avoid making him a sandwich between the wife and the mother
  • Emotional blackmailing is the last thing he needs before he signs off for the day
  • Buy him a flower just for the heck of it
  • Reminding is always better than taking his case for forgetting to get things on the way
  • Do not be demoralize him by being sarcastic

A few decades back the thought process was – women are inferior and men are superior. As a result more was expected out of men. As the world progressed, gender inequality reduced, but expectations remained. Hence, few things that men in our lives do, are not appreciated. These things ought to be done by them. Good things done by them are taken often for granted.

This is a 100% personal thought (which need not be agreed upon) – men are in a confused state of mind in today’s modern times – they are desperately trying to find out reasons why they behave the way they behave in different situations; how to handle an upset person; when to talk, what to talk and how much to talk; when to listen and when to give suggestions; how to balance between professional and personal life; who is right at home; what is a good amount for financial stability; and so on.

Here is where the role of a woman comes into play. If you really love your men (husband, father, brother, son, friend, colleague, etc.), they need you the most. Put things into perspective and help them out. They need you to understand them rather than always expecting to be understood. Your men will blossom beyond your expectations the moment they know someone cares to understand them!

I love to believe this – God created MEN and WOMEN as two separate genders so that both can come together and form unison – a state of being and feeling complete! Neither one is complete without the other. While women need men, men, too, need women. The day we understand that BOTH NEED EACH OTHER EQUALLY, this debate on – which is a better gender – will seize to exist. Let’s both go out of our ways to make the other gender (at least the most important people in your lives) feel special!