“you always see what your eyes want to see…”

DATED – 26th December 2015 I love listening to this song “Frozen” by Madonna from the album ‘Ray of Light’. The first sentence teaches me a brilliant life lesson. It says, “You always see what your eyes want to see…” It suggests to me that invariably in any situation, I conveniently see what I wish to see. I don’t necessarily take a 360 degree view of the circumstances. Few examples out of our lives seem to resonate with these first lines – The doctor gives you some suggestions when you are ill. But you choose to follow only those that […]

Is it worth your WORRY?

DATED – 12th December 2015 One emotion which occurs naturally to most of us is – WORRY. Most, if not all, would have gone through this – when we hear about something which is concerning/negative, we think of the worst to have had happened. Have you gone through this? My question to you – Is it worth your WORRY? Which means, if you worry, does it change anything? Or do things remain the same? In doing this, you would have surely gained a few anxious moments, heartbeats skip, drop in BP, etc. On the other hand, if you decide to […]

FEAR = GROWTH

DATED – 29th November 2015 Fear is a common word/ emotion, which every person on this earth would have heard and certainly experienced. The degree and regularity of it varies from person to person. Invariably, Fear is considered to be evil. I have a contradicting view on this. Whether we like it or not, each one of us fears something or the other – some express it, most don’t. I feel that there is no harm in having fear. Infact, I feel fear is good. If you can direct it in the right way, fear is the best possible stimulant […]

an empty mind is GOD’s WORKSHOP …

DATED – 31st October 2015 The other day as we were going off to sleep, my wife Arpita was asking me – what makes you be positive in any situation no matter what? My immediate response to her was – because I have an uncluttered mind. I don’t think too much, neither do I analyse too much. Even if someone has said something that is negative, I think about it and how useful/ truthful it is. In case I need to change, I do so or else forget about it. I feel that when we have an uncluttered mind, it […]

F.I.T.T.

DATED – 24th October 2015 I love being fit. Currently my wife Arpita and I are becoming fitter with this amazing trainer – Akram Sir. He is unbelievably punctual and has tremendous knowledge. While exercising last week, he mentioned a concept – F.I.T.T., which I caught onto. To improve the physical state of the body, F.I.T.T. is compulsory – F – Frequency (how many times you workout), I – Intensity (how intensely do you workout), T – Type (do you keep improving of types of exercises you do), T – Time (how many times do you repeat these exercises). Though […]

Small things; BIG DIFFERENCE!

DATED – 13th October 2015 It’s been almost two years (or maybe a little more) that we have been having staff meeting at my office. We do this meeting once a month where each and every employee is supposed to attend compulsorily, right from the helpers to the top sales people. The idea being – to create a culture in the organization and ensure everyone is on similar ground. At the same time discuss and sort out any issues, and update each other. Apart from this, I share with them some insight on life, relationships, attitude etc. This meeting, on […]

UNLEARN…

DATED – 26th September 2015 About five years ago, I had gone for a swim. As I was swimming, I saw a coach teaching a man how to swim. I excitedly asked the coach if he could help me fine-tune my strokes. He looked at me and said, “My friend, it is easier to learn afresh, rather than fine tune. The most difficult thing to do in swimming is to UNLEARN.” Isn’t this true for so many things in our daily routine too? As we live, various incidents, insights, learnings, circumstances, etc shape our thoughts, nature and personality. Let’s see […]

MAKE; not BREAK

DATED – 12th September 2015 Indian boxer Mary Kom is indeed an inspiration to millions of people. A movie was made on her life, which was brilliant too. After watching it in the theatre, I was watching it again day before at home post dinner. In one of the scene, after Mary (Priyanka Chopra) has delivered two kids, she is chatting with her husband – Onler (Darshan Kumar). With tears in her eyes, she tells Onler, “My boxing career is over. I can’t be a boxer ever again with two kids. My body will not co-operate.” Like a good husband, […]

A TRUE TRIBUTE to Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam

DATED – 15th August 2015 One of India’s beloved sons Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam passed away on 27th July 2015. As expected lots of literature, his quotes, incidents got circulated all across. I came across a letter he had written. He wrote – we want to complain about the corruption, municipality not picking up garbage, work not happening at desired pace, indiscipline, slow judicial systems, inefficient government, etc etc etc. We love to complain, give excuses and blame. But we don’t want to take responsibility for anything. When there is an opportunity to do something, we alongwith our family lock […]

After all..… LOVE IS LOVE!

DATED – 8th August 2015 I guess, one of the most commonly question asked on LOVE must be – HOW MUCH DO YOU LOVE ME? While the person who has asked this question eagerly awaits an answer, the person who has to answer is having a fight within – ‘My God! How do I answer this question?’ After the internal upheaval, a few possible answers are – I love you more than what you think; I love you more than anyone else in this world; I love you till eternity; My love for you is as deep as the ocean […]

PREDICTABLY UNPREDICTABLE

DATED – 25th July 2015 How does this kind of a lifestyle sound – wake up in the morning, get ready, leave for work, work for about 8 hours, come back home, have dinner, watch some TV and off to sleep. OR this – wake up, get the kids ready for school, cook breakfast for all, do the household chores, cook lunch, rest for a while, leave kids for classes, prepare dinner, wind up the kitchen, and doze off. Interesting? I know it isn’t. Looks like a mundane, routine life day in and day out, isn’t it? Our life seems […]

Are you ‘IN-CONTROL’?

DATED – 29th May 2015 Did you ever make statements like – I don’t know why I did this; I really didn’t want to say that; why in the world do I get angry with you for such small issues; I regret hitting you, my child; I shouldn’t have taken that decision; I really wish I hadn’t become emotional that time; I don’t know what stopped me from grabbing that opportunity; and so on. Isn’t it surprising that at times we end up saying / doing things which we didn’t want to do? Later, we even regret doing that. We […]

Am I an AUTHORITY on it?

DATED – 14th May 2015 It was a beautiful Sunday morning in winters roughly 10 years ago. It was a little cold outside, but pleasant. I was sitting in a satsang with about 100 more people. We were surrounded by greenery and a constant chirping of birds – a perfect ambience. After a small meditation process, we got into a discussion. Naren, our trainer initiated a question and answer session. He asked a question, “How would you sort out an argument / cold war / difference of opinion between your mother and your wife?” I thought I had a brilliant […]

I WILL TAKE THE INITIATIVE ….

DATED – 21st March 2015 We are a family of happy, excited and closely bonded people. The family consists of –my Dad and Mom, my wife – Arpita, my younger brother Ankur, his wife – Divya, and my sister – Juhi. We cherish the times we spend together. We love going out with each other. There are enough laughter riots every single day. Like any such closely-knit family, we too have our moments of disagreements. There was one such a few days ago. Within the family, there were three parties – Arpita and I on one side, my parents on […]

APPRECIATE in public; CRITICISE in private!

DATED – 21st February 2015 This time, the message of my blog is already over right in its title. I don’t think I need to explain more, do I? Let me elaborate a little – We need to ask ourselves – is this the case of our life too? Do we make this error sometimes – we appreciate people/ loved ones in private, but excitedly criticise people/ loved ones in public. Let’s look at a few instances – I have a student in my math class who is a little weak. Something that is very simple looks tricky to him. […]

PERFECT! Am I? Are YOU?

DATED – 22nd January 2015 There was this small fictional short story I had heard somewhere. In the entirety of planet Earth, God created one perfect man and one perfect woman. Both were searching for the perfect life partner. In fact they even met each other, but both of them still found faults in the other. Ultimately, both died single as they kept searching for the perfect spouse! Though it’s a fictional story, it is so very relevant in today’s world in various roles of our lives. Given a chance, we can point out atleast one thing, which is not […]

I REALLY REALLY WANT TO …..

DATED – 10th January 2015 For the first time in one year, since I started scripting blogs, I am kind of writing something in continuation with the last time’s blog of ‘Goodness and/or Greatness’. I completed the last blog by writing that let us all have a resolution to become a combination of ‘Goodness’ AND ‘Greatness’. Making a resolution at start of every year seems to be a norm, isn’t it? At times, resolution is the ‘in’ thing; sometimes I do it because all my friends are making a resolution, most of the times, I say it because I have […]

GOODNESS or/and GREATNESS?

DATED – 27th December 2014 One of those things, which I love to do, is to meet people and have one to one conversations. It is only when we have one to one conversations, do we dig in deep and discover more about and to each other. It is this habit of mine that has helped me build deep relationships with so many people. A few days back I met a friend for dinner. We discussed various things – about her family, her work, her personal life, what all she is currently doing apart from career, and much more. She […]